We ask ourselves
Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?
Actually, who are you not to be?
Your playing small does not serve the world.
We are all meant to shine, as children do.
And as we let our own light shine,
We unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we’re liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.
-Marianne Williamson, excerpt from Our Deepest Fear
Working with women, I have noticed patterns that don’t match any description in the diagnostic and treatment manual. I call this profile “Good Daughters”. Do you see yourself in this? You know you’re a Good Daughter if this description fits:
You always tried to please Mom, to earn praise through performance. You work tirelessly to avoid mistakes. You will not ask directly for what you want and try to need nothing from others.
You have a keen sensitivity to the moods and expectations of those around you. This prompts you, a Good Daughter, to subtly alter yourself. Like a chameleon adjusting its color to blend with its surroundings for safety, you also try not to attract unwanted attention. You feel resentful when your needs are overlooked.
Even by you.
But something has happened – it takes something overwhelming for a Good Daughter to seek help (usually because your ability to take care of everyone else is impacted).
You may count on me to know how hard it is for you to know what you need. You may rely on me to keep the focus squarely on you, even when you attempt to shift my attention elsewhere.
If it’s time to know the woman in the mirror more deeply, if you want to feel more confident in your self and your relationships, I feel uniquely equipped to support you in a quest for more.
Please schedule a time for us to talk. You deserve care, too.